Being jealous of the way your partner is around others is a sign of something not quite right in the relationship. Unclear boundaries, lack of self-love, past abandonment issues, to name a few. But there’s more to the green eyed monster than romantic jealousy.
Before a recent vacation, I told a friend that we were off to Mexico for a romantic getaway. Her instant response was, ‘I’m so jealous’. I wondered if she meant it or if it’s just something people say. I’ve used the phrase myself, and looking back on life, I see times where I literally meant it.
Jealousy and envy are insidious even in their mildest forms.
But you are not a jealous or envious person. You are hurting inside, and those hurts are the root cause of your aching desires. Desires for true love, peace and happiness in your love life.
When things were really bad in my marriage, I remember feeling a sense of longing when I would see a happy couple. I was envious that I didn’t have what they had.
Even though I outwardly showed happiness for others, secretly I was focused on lack. I was focused on what I didn’t have. The more I felt sorry for myself the worse things got – it was a self-perpetuating cycle of misery and. Thank God that’s an old chapter and one I’ve re-written.
No matter how much you deny being envious or jealous, if the green eyed monster starts whispering when you hear of the good fortune of another – it will keep you from being free, happy and abundant.
Even a smattering of envy will set up energetic blocks preventing Love, Peace & Happiness from being abundant in your life.
Envy tells the Universe that abundance doesn’t make you happy.
Pay attention to the sneaky things your inner critic says and the longings you feel. Those are also messages from your higher self, showing you the areas within that need healing. Every negative thought and emotion your inner critic dishes out can be healed. Jealousy and envy are not character traits. They are symptoms of what needs healing.When you heal the wounds in your heart, meaning little as well as big traumas, and are truly happy for the abundance of others – That’s how you make love great. Click To Tweet
The green eyed monster doesn’t stand a chance against a healed heart and mind, filled with love.
Dr. Gayle Friend
Dr. Gayle Friend is an intimacy expert who successfully helps individuals and couples connect with themselves and each other – in and out of the bedroom. Learn more about her here.