Stop Working On Your Relationship

Can you imagine what it would be like if you stopped working on your relationship? As counter-intuitive as it sounds, that’s exactly what I think you should do.

Stay with me.

How much time do you put in struggling, trying to make things work and not much changes? The struggle continues, or it ebbs and flows. Things are good and then not so good and you’re back in the same old struggle.

Or you go through one relationship after another and the same sort of struggles keep popping up and you keep working on the same things.

Instead of thinking of it as ‘working’ on your relationship, what would happen if you thought of it as ‘practicing’?

Sometimes all it takes is a paradigm shift for things to feel easier.

Think of it as practicing to be a better lover. Practicing to be a better partner. Practicing to be happier. Practicing new ways of being in a relationship that feel really good – because ultimately isn’t that what you want?

You probably want more passion, more joy, more comfort, ease and fulfillment. But doesn’t the mentality of working feel at odds with creating or attracting an amazing relationship?

I know that learning a new way of being can feel uncomfortable at first, but it doesn’t have to be as hard as we make it sometimes.

If you think of applying new ideas to improve your love life doesn’t the thought of practicing take a lot of pressure off?

Work usually feels like external pressure. Practice comes from an internal desire to get better at something so you get to the end result of joy and exhilaration.

I help clients sort through the muck and break free of whatever is holding them back from having their dream love life. It includes doing away with limiting beliefs that inhibit the ease of a happy, healthy relationship and great sex.

So yes, there’s a learning curve but if you practice, and cut yourself some slack, life and love get easier and waaaaay more fun!

Think about shifting that paradigm from work to practicing and see what a difference it makes in the way you think about your love life, the way you see your partner, and your view of life in general.

And if you need a little help breaking through whatever is holding you back, I’m here. Drop me a line.

Love,

Dr. Gayle Friend

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