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Everyone deserves to have a relationship and sex life that lifts you up and lights you up. Our need for connection is hard-wired in our DNA and in our souls. We have the power to shift the way things are and create the love life of our dreams.

But sometimes things go sideways and we’re filled with doubts and insecurities. When this happens, your heart aches with pain about what you yearn for and it’s hard to believe the hurt will ever go away. But nothing is permanent.

This too shall pass. It might pass like a kidney stone and hurt like hell, but eventually it will pass.

I know because I’ve had kidney stone moments that felt like they went on for an eternity. Not actual kidney stones, but hard times and acute heartache that I didn’t think would ever heal. I felt like I couldn’t breathe and that I was dying inside.

In time I realized I wasn’t breaking down – I was breaking open and breaking through. This is how I help people shift perspective about heartache – by re-framing ‘breaking down’ to ‘breaking open’ and ‘breaking through’.

I’ve had clients who doubted things would ever change in their relationship or sex life. But eventually, by shifting beliefs and learning a new way of looking at things, their lives DO change. I relate to them more than they’ll ever know. It feels like a miracle but, just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, they had the power all along. We all do.

Impermanence is the only thing we can truly count on in life.

Nothing lasts forever and we can take solace knowing that every moment we have the power to choose what we want and make it happen.

Whether it’s your relationship with yourself and your own sexuality, or your relationship with a romantic partner, every relationship is only one of two ways: It’s a work in progress moving toward creating your hearts desire – or it isn’t.

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Kidney-stone moments are horribly lonely, even with loving support. Don’t fight them. Don’t stuff the emotions down. Feel them. Lean in. Cry. Break open. Break through. It hurts like hell but it will pass.

Start a gratitude journal and write in it every single day. Spend some time in radical appreciation and notice every tiny thing you appreciate through touch, sight, sound, smell and taste. Become aware of all the positives in life.

Use positive affirmations to help you create and experience the best that life and love has to offer. From my heart to yours, here’s my personal list of 29 Affirmations for an Exquisite Love Life. Download them now  and start your road to heartache recovery by connecting deeply with yourself and everything you deserve.


Dr. Gayle

p.s. Again, here’s the link to download your copy of 29 Affirmations for an Exquisite Love Life.